As you all know UL and I got married recently, it was wonderful really… until we discovered a month after our nuptial that according to Home Affairs we were still SINGLE! Imagine my dismay, I had shared my bed with this man that was NOT my husband… well at least only according to our wonderful, swift, well organized Home affairs department…but in Gods eyes we were – Thank God! (I mean that in the most un-blaspheme way possible! …So what went wrong… well actually it seems quite a lot… and maybe before you decide to tie the knot, perhaps consider all the money, time and energy you will be spending in those beautifully green painted walls, with the dirtiest floor you have ever seen!!
It started like this, after the honeymoon days were over it was back to the real world where all the wife’s names and details change (you men have it too easy!) All my cards, value cards, registration details, banking details, Id’s, passports, mailing addresses… even FACEBOOK had to change… so we started with the easiest of them all… FACEBOOK, we were now married on FB how wonderful! Then it was banking stuff which we had a huge problem with as well because according to some stupid new law they couldn’t accept the small paper marriage certificate, finally we sorted that one out. (PS my credit card is still in my maiden name…guess they haven’t sorted that out yet!! Still waiting for new card to arrive) anyway I then went to Home Affairs and filled out all the papers for ID, passport and unabridged marriage certificate and spent R100’s too! Had a problem again with small paper marriage certificate and had to return a couple of weeks later to redo marriage certificate thing… then they gave me this wonderful website www.dha.gov.za where I could check the status of my id and passport as well as marital status!!! My passport was ready for collection – but I was still single on the website – that should have set off bells in my head, but I ignored the obvious signs of future headache and frustrations that were about to come my way!I arrived at HA nice and early and waited in the collection queue for 2 and half hours before I was seen to. It was then discovered that my Passport was ready…but guess what …it was still in my maiden name after I filled out those stupid forms attaching everything they needed and all the proof in the world…But NOOOOOOO Pretoria doesn’t look at the book of pages you fill out and rather do their own thing! It turned out that it was not the fault of Pretoria but of lovely Wynberg, where there was a backlog of marriage registrations that had not been processed as yet and thus the reason for the confusion in Pretoria – Please note: we got married 1 December and it was now 10 February – that is almost 3 months and they had to search for my papers!! So imagine how much longer it would have taken!! So to conclude my loving experience of marriage the home affairs style… I am still waiting for my ID, Passport and marriage certificate….BUT at least I am finally Married ….according to HA…and you know what they are a JOKE! HA HA HA stupid HA HA… and now for a joke …I thought this was quite funny!
Duties of Wives
Three men were sitting together bragging about how they had given their new wives duties. Terry had married a woman from
Jimmie had married a woman from
The third man had married a South African girl. He boasted that he told her that her duties were to keep the house cleaned, dishes washed, lawn mowed, laundry washed and hot meals on the table for every meal. He said the first day he didn’t see anything, the second day he didn’t see anything, but by the third day most of the swelling had gone down and he could see a little out of his left eye. Enough to fix himself a bite to eat, load the dishwasher, and call a landscaper.http://www.gpsa.co.za/Jokes/20050707.htm
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February 18th, 2008 at 8:47 am
LOL,
I’m sorry to hear about all the woes Sky. This is pretty much the reason I won’t insist on my wife taking my name if she doesn’t want to.
February 18th, 2008 at 10:24 am
What? No Mrs Foster?? Ah
call me old fashioned and all, but that’s just me 
February 19th, 2008 at 11:49 am
It really doesn’t change anything does it? Just sounds like a lot of hassle for nothing. If there are kids they’ll have my name anyway.
Maybe, if my wife has a nice surname we can double barrel it.
Oh and shot for publishing my surname all over the place UL :p just kidding - I don’t care
February 20th, 2008 at 9:33 am
hahaha
sorry m8..
ah.. I think I just like the symbolism of it all.
okay getting all deep and philosophical here 
Wife joining with Husband to become one.
she leaves her old independent-self behind to join together and work together.
So accepting his surname is a symbolism of how there lives should be.
One-united-shared..
Peace out bro.. (btw, my bro might have a stress fracture in his foot.. which means no two oceans.. Lets hope it is not so.)
February 21st, 2008 at 9:24 am
no no I do understand the symbolism (double barreling the name would have the same effect though right?)
I’ve always been proud to be of a family and that my parents are Mr. and Mrs. Foster and we are the Fosters. I do appreciate that one-ness you’re talking about. Like I said though, I won’t insist on it, if my future wife wants to take on my name, that’s cool.
The kids would have my name anyway :p
Dude, no, your bro must run. I was planning on chasing him as inspiration for me to get off to a decent start. I’d never catch him but it would be something to strive for
February 27th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
Ha ha.. you guys are soo cute
… just for the record I had the choice to keep my name or double barrel and considering both maiden name and married name are 10+ letters each… that might have stressed out Home affairs more 
… so in light of that i chose my hubbys… which i might add is not as good as my old one ….hee hee (sorry babe)
August 18th, 2008 at 7:14 pm
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